Wait, what? Talk to yourself? Yes, and here's why!
Today we are going to talk about mindset.
Mindset is super, super important.
What we think is very, very important, as is what we think about ourselves.
Because honestly, if you think about it . . . who talks to you more than anyone?
You talk to yourself more than anyone else.
We are constantly thinking in our mind, and talking to ourselves - whether it's encouraging ourselves or beating ourselves up and berating ourselves and being disappointed and feeling guilty.
Whatever it is, we talk to ourselves more than anyone else. So it's very important what we're saying!
It is so easy for us to slip into a downward spiral.
I think a negative thought or I have a negative emotion.
Because of that I want sugar, so I eat a cookie.
Then I think, Oh, I shouldn't have done that.
Oh, I feel so guilty.
And then I beat myself up in my mind.
So I have another cookie.
And then before I know it, I've eaten half a dozen cookies.
Have you ever been there?
That's why what we say to ourselves is so, so important.
If we are constantly thinking about ourselves . . .
“I'm a slob.”
“I'm always defeated.”
“I can't do anything right.”
“I can't stay on plan no matter how hard I try.”
“I shouldn't even try.”
If that's the way we're thinking about ourselves, then yes, we're going to be that way, because that's what we're thinking.
But what if we change our attitude around?
Recently a client of mine was coming up on something really difficult.
She was really dreading it and saying, “Oh, this is just gonna be awful. I know. It's gonna be a bad week.”
And I looked at her and I said, “Yes, if that's the kind of attitude you have going into it, you for sure will have a hard time and a struggle, and you will have a bad week. But if you go into it saying, ‘Okay, this is a challenge, but I know I can learn. And I'm going to apply myself and do my best and I'm going to learn how to do it.’ Well, your week is going to go a lot better.”
And you know what? I never heard anything else about her having a horrible week.
I'm not big into affirmations, (you know, looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you're strong and you're brave). I'm not big into that.
But what we speak to ourselves is very, very important.
So make sure that you are speaking truth to yourself.
And as far as it relates to food, think about yourself in a positive manner.
“I can do this.”
“I'm going to do this just one choice at a time.”
“I'm not going to look at the whole week that seems overwhelming. I'm just going to do it one choice at a time.”
You can do it - I know you can!